Baby M Update, Comany and Thoughts

Baby M's mother has been so kind to me in sending me daily texts on how he is doing. Thus far, she says he is okay and happy enough. Yesterday he enjoyed an outing to the beach where he chased seagulls. He loves birds, so I imagine him very happy. He has been wary of  new people, but that is to be understood. Poor little boy has been through so much in the last week, not to say his entire life. I am relieved to know that he has finally found his forever family and will no longer have to endure such turmoil in his life. His mother is the kind of mother that is loving, devoted and intentional. I have no doubt in my mind that he will thrive.

I miss him. I know that this Saturday they are having a special good-bye party for those who took care of him. I know his first foster family will be there as well as his aunt. The second foster family is now living out of state. We decided even before he left our care, that once he was with his new family full time, he would not see us again. It is not done out of cruelty, but out of the purpose that seeing me could confuse him. He needs to bond with his new family and not have me there to intervene. I have to admit that there is a part of me that would like to go to this party. I would like to see him once more. I would like to hold him and play with him. I would love to see him run to me with a look of relief of seeing somebody familiar once again. But that's about me. This must be about him and his new family. So the right thing to do is to stay where I'm at. I will be thinking of him, but I do that all the time.

Tonight we had the honor of having Baby M's grandparents at our home. What amazing and inspirational people. When I became Baby M's foster mother, I was given her information and asked to keep in touch with her. I felt that it was in Baby M's best interest to have his grandparents involved in his life as much as possible. I texted and emailed her pictures almost daily. Through  texting, I found her to be a loving grandmother who wanted nothing less than the best for her grandson. They bravely made the choice not to adopt him as their son, but to allow his new family to have him as they felt it was in his best interest to grow up with siblings. I'm sure that was not an easy decision to make. But in the end they see it as gaining more grandchildren through Baby M's new sisters. And I know they take this grandparent role very seriously. They were so kind to my Gideon and Esther, bringing them presents and listening to their stories and their piano playing. Gideon was so happy to receive an original Irving Berlin piano sheet music from 1914. They have us a family themed picture frame. I know that the five of us will be in that one!  It did my soul good to have them here, listen to their family stories, their testimonies,  and hearing all about their visit with Baby M today. I had tears in my eyes as they told me how good Baby M is doing with his new family and how they are continuing his routines with him. I hope that if they find themselves in our neck of the woods, that they will visit us again.

So it looks like I have officially landed the plane. And I have made some wonderful new friends in this. Baby M is already doing God's work in connecting these people.  Only God knows what will come of it in the end. But right now I am happy to know that Baby M is surrounded by love, whether it is from his new family, grandparents who are with him, or his foster families who must love him from afar.